Long Time No Post and What I did once on Halloween October 31, 2010Posted by walterknitty in Family, Life Lessons, Year of Me.
Um, yeah. That’s one way to look at it I suppose. It has been quite a long time since anything was posted on this blog. What have I been doing? I went to see Lady Gaga with M. It was my birthday/Christmas present from M and his husband. At 175$ a pop, I can see why. I would never have paid that money, not for one night of entertainment. Normally, I could care less about pop music. It doesnt to anything for me. For some reason, I dont feel that way about Lady Gaga.
It was a lot of fun. I got embarrassingly intoxicated but thankfully, M was there to take care of me. He runs a good hospital.
I went camping with my neighbours. We hiked 7 1/2 miles up Eagle Creek Trail, past Tunnel Falls, and camped for 2 nights. Then we hiked ourselves out. It was a lot of fun. Yoga is still a part of the weekly routine. Twice a week in that hot room allowed me to go the whole way and keep up even though I had never hiked that far with a 20 lb pack. I’ve never hiked with a pack. The last few miles at the very end on our way back kicked my butt. I lagged then but it was well deserved.
As soon as I got home I took a hot bath. Oh my God, I was filthy. I washed, rinsed, and immediately emptied then refilled the tub with clean hot water. My hair had so much grit. Eck. I cannot remember the last time it felt so good to be clean.
I saw The Stolen Sweets for my birthday. That was fun too.
There has been a lot of thinking going on here. Learning to reconnect with myself and my friends. Remembering my feminist side, re-experiencing my love of music and novels.
I thought I’d start trying to get back into by telling my very own, rather unconventional, Halloween story. It’s not at all what you’d expect.
I got married on Halloween in 1998 to Hawkeye.
It’s his favourite holiday. I figured it’d be the one day he wouldnt forget.
We had already made the decision to move to Oregon but, hadnt told anyone. I thought his parents might take it better if we were married. Um, this is not a good reason to get married. It’s not one I would recommend.
But we got married we did. It was a small wedding, maybe 70 people. I did not have a full complement of bridesmaids. Just a friend and one of my Aunts. Hawkeye had his brother and friend stand for him. We got married at a park and for Iowa, that late in the year, we were gifted with good weather. The park has a lodge where we had both the ceremony and the reception. We decorated it for fall with hay bails, carved pumpkins, gourds, etc. It was not fru-fru. Neither Hawkeye nor I are into the froof.
My Dad, true to his Homer Simpson self, would not let up about when he was going to get some grandkids. I couldnt take it anymore and said something to his sister who is the matriarch of the family. She talked to him and he stopped. Thank God.
I was so terrified at the ceremony I couldnt say anything when we came to having to recite our vows. I was so terrified, after it was over, I threw up. After that, I was okay and had a good time.
Although we are no longer married, we are very close. It’s more of a familial relationship now. His Mom says he and I are soulmates. In a lot of ways, he and I grew up together. I’ll take that any day over hating each other.